13 Reasons Why: A Review

This isn’t really going to be a review; my title lied. It is part review, part rant…

13 Reasons Why: A Rant

I recently (binge) watched 13 Reasons Why on Netflix this past week. To be honest, I didn’t have high expectations because all of the promos made it look like another stupid teen drama. I was only slightly tempted since I had read the book in high school, but if Cassandra hadn’t started it with me, I probably wouldn’t have watched it for a long time, if ever. After a few episodes, I was hooked. Mostly because of nostalgia– I really loved the book when I was younger.

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This show is probably one of the only instances in my life where the book just didn’t measure up to the show. Now, I have not read the book since high school, so I could be wrong, but the show was just so much more nuanced. There are a lot of changes from the book, but it made the whole thing so much more connected and intense. Plus, the acting was incredible. Watching the show was truly an experience and I can’t wait to watch it again.

I wasn’t originally going to do a review, because the show had been given so much praise already that there wasn’t anything I felt I could add to the conversation. But recently on Facebook, I’ve seen a lot of posts talking negatively about the show because of how graphic and “triggering” it was. So since I am passive-aggressive af, I’ve decided to throw in my 2 cents, plus I really loved the show.

I will be discussing generalized plot points, so if you have not finished and do not want any light spoilers, click away.

In the Facebook post that started this whole blog post, it was basically saying that the entire show needed a warning because the whole show was graphic and insensitive to people who have gone through similar experiences.

First of all, putting a warning on the whole show, telling exactly what is going to go down throughout the entirety of it is (for lack of a better word) stupid. Who would watch a show, knowing exactly what is going to happen? Also, everyone has been talking about this show, everyone knows the premise. So, if you know that you are sensitive to suicide or bullying, then don’t watch a show about suicide and bullying.

Another point that was made in a different Facebook post was that 13 Reasons Why was glorifying and romanticizing suicide. This one was coming from someone who hadn’t even watched the show, and yet they felt entitled to write a whole novel on her Facebook about it. This show, in no way, makes suicide look enticing. If anything, it shows the raw, painful, frightening, and depressing truth of taking your own life.

I don’t think there is anyone out there who read the book or watched the show and then thought, Wow, I could really go for a nice suicide right about now. I was more inclined to buy a tape recorder and tell all the assholes I knew how much of an asshole they were than to take my life. In the final episode when we actually see Hannah commit suicide, it was the darkest thing I’d ever seen in my life. I kept expecting the camera to cut away, but it didn’t. It stayed with her until she died. I stayed with her until she died.

I can’t say that I’ve never thought about killing myself, but it was more like “If I was dead right now, I wouldn’t have to go through this shit” than actual self-hatred and loneliness. But watching that scene was like a sharp slap in the face, waking me up. We always hear about people who kill themselves, but seeing it happen and it’s direct affect around everyone around them is unnerving.

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This show is supposed to make you uncomfortable. You are supposed to feel sick to your stomach. You are supposed to want to look away but fail. Yes, this show is graphic and “triggering” but that is because it needs to be. People aren’t going to talk about it if it isn’t right in their face. That is why the book was so important when it came out 10 years ago. It was all anyone talked about in the hallways at school, and now it is all anyone can post about online. It opens discussion, which in turn instills change.

Thank you for reading!

 

Formal Lookbook

So this past Saturday was my sorority’s spring formal. It was a lot of fun, but I mean, anytime I get to hang out with Amberlyn and Cassandra is a good time. We got all dolled up and took tons of pictures, so here is a bunch of pictures that I took before we left.

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I really love this one because it looks like we are at prom!
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Here is the beautiful Cassandra, who is so photogenic that it should be a crime
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And the lovely Amberlyn! I like to imagine that she is thinking of me 🙂 but she’s probably thinking about her adorable new puppy!

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This is me and my friend, Darby.

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My absolute favorite picture of MAC 
So there you go! I hope you enjoyed these pictures. It was a lot of fun to capture these snapshots of my life, and I hope to continue with photography.

I know I haven’t been posting as frequently, but I’m trying to get back into the groove of things. As always, thanks for reading (or in this case, viewing)!

I Have A Lot of Feelings About This Episode Of Girls

I just finished watching this week’s episode of Girls, and I have so many emotions right now that I felt the urge to write a post. Just be aware, there are definitely spoilers, so continue at your own risk.

Let me just start from the beginning. I have been watching Girls on and off since I was 18 (I am now 22), but I have really become obsessed with it in the last year or so. The fact that I have a very unhealthy obsession addiction to Adam Driver has not helped this. Anyway, from the very beginning, I have loved Adam and Hannah’s relationship. Yes, they had their issues, but I felt like they had both grown so much since the beginning, that maybe they could finally live happily ever after. But of course, we can’t always get what we want.

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Ever since I first saw the teaser last week for this week’s episode, I’ve been thinking about how they could possibly resolve the show. Because, let’s face it, we only have two more episodes left. To be honest, I was completely under the impression that Adam and Hannah would end up together, but when Lena was doing press before the season started, she made some comments about Hannah and Adam’s relationship. Basically, she said that she was surprised that so many people wanted them back together because that meant she hadn’t done a good enough job of showing how messed up their relationship was. From that moment, I had been mentally preparing myself for complete and utter heartbreak. Instead, I found myself very conflicted.

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This week’s episode starts with Adam telling Jessa that he wants to raise Hannah’s baby with her, and Jessa is seemingly okay about the whole thing, which was unsettling to me. Because, like everything about them is so explosive especially when it involves Hannah. But whatever. Then, the rest of the episode is like one big happy montage of Hannah and Adam being in love. I thought I would be ecstatic, but there was something in the pit of my stomach that knew it wasn’t going to last. They had been too far gone.

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What really shocked me was how guilty I felt for wanting Adam and Hannah to be together when it was obvious that Jessa needed Adam. Seeing her go back to her old ways of hooking up with random men in bars really hurt me. There was also a very strong parallel to Jessa walking into bar, and it was later confirmed in the “Inside the Episode”. The shot of Jessa walking down the street into the bar was the same shot they did in the first season when Jessa decided to go into a bar instead of have her abortion. It was obvious that her way of dealing with her feelings made her revert to her old ways, but she couldn’t just disappear into her old vices. When she said “I don’t want you” to the guy she was hooking up with, my heart broke for her. But then, seeing Adam and Hannah together again was so satisfying, which made me feel even more conflicted.

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In a way, Adam making that movie about him and Hannah was a self-proclaiming prophesy. Because when he was filming he mentioned something about even though they wanted to be together, the relationship was too intense to survive. And once they find themselves sitting in a diner, planning out their lives as parents, it becomes obvious to them that they can’t be together. Watching them cry reminded me of the end of season 4 (which is both my favorite and least favorite season finale) when they are faced with the reality of being back together, but know that it just won’t work. Throughout the show, they have tried and tried again, but they just aren’t good together. I think it was hardest for me to come to this conclusion (haha).


I can’t believe, though, that Jessa would just let Adam come back knowing that she is essentially his second choice. It’s sad. But at least she knows that being with him makes her happy. I feel like a part of her always considered herself this lone-wolf, but once she found herself actually alone, she realized that she wanted more. Also, she thought she was pregnant in season 1 when she went into that bar and hooked up with someone, and this season there was a scene of her throwing up and then going into the bar just like before. Seeing those parallels made me realize how much Jessa has also grown throughout the years, and she deserves to be with the person she loves. I feel like Jessa in the first season would have been too prideful to admit that she needed somebody; at least she is strong enough to make a decision based on her overall happiness rather than “winning”.

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I have to admit, if Hannah wasn’t going to be with Adam, I would have wanted her to be alone anyway, because she is a strong, independent woman who don’t need no man!

This show makes me so happy and so sad all at the same time, but I will never tire of these characters. This is a show that I will re-watch over and over again. And I will fight anyone who thinks that Girls is anything short of genius.

Luckiest Girl Alive: A Review

I haven’t been doing so well with my resolution to read more. Since January, I’ve only read two books. This past week, I read Luckiest Girl Alive by Jessica Knoll, and it is so beautiful. I can already tell that it will be one of those books that you pick up year after year to read again.

I first heard of this book through a weekly newsletter that I am subscribed to. For those who don’t know, I am OBSESSED with Lena Dunham (blog post to come, I’m sure). She and one of the producers of Girls, Jenni Konner, started an online newsletter called Lenny Letter. Knoll wrote a piece in one of the issues a year ago today about her book. In the Lenny Letter, Knoll talked openly about how her personal experience with sexual assault led to the idea of her novel (you can read her piece here). She was so open and raw in her piece that, without even knowing anything else about her book, I had to read it. And on one fine day, I found myself once again strolling the aisles of Target when a familiar book cover caught my eye. I’m so glad it did, because I instantly fell in love.

The novel follows the soon-to-be Ani Harrison (formerly TifAni FaNelli), who strives to recreate herself in an attempt to alter people’s perception of who she was. She is a senior editor at The Women’s Magazine which is most comparable to our Cosmopolitan, and is engaged to the attractive, blue-blooded Luke Harrison. It would appear as though she has the perfect life, but very quickly you can tell that there is something unnerving about her. Throughout most of the novel, the reader is left in the dark about Ani’s past, but through small glimpses and memories, we slowly begin to understand the dark and twisted person that we’ve been unapologetically subjected to. Knoll creates a very realistic mindset that we get to experience throughout the entirety of the book.

Personally, I felt an instant (yet frightening) connection with Ani because her internal monologue mirrored my own in a dark way. Perhaps it is just a testament to Knoll’s writing that her readers can understand her character so well, or perhaps I should seek professional help. Either way, I definitely miss Ani’s quick wit and dark humor.

It is beautiful, inspiring, and suspenseful. I have told all (two) of my friends about this novel, and now I urge all of you to do the same.

66 Thoughts I Had While Watching Girls (S6E2)

It’s Sunday night, which means Girls is back on! It also means that I have to wake up early and go to class. But that’s kind of why I love Sunday nights so much. It’s one last hurrah before reality sinks in.

Girls is one of my favorite shows—I could just watch it on a loop for the rest of my life and never get bored, which is why this season is so important to me. First of all, it is a new season with new story lines, and secondly, it is the last season. I am so sad to see all of these characters go, but I am completely confident in Lena’s writing that it will be incredible.

We’re only on the second episode of the series, and I’ve been doing something fun with my friends. We’ve been live-chatting (snapchatting) each other our reactions as we watch the show, and it has been really hilarious.

I haven’t posted in a while, so I wanted tonight’s to be a fun one. Here are a few of my thoughts I had while watching episode 2 of Girls. Be warned, this includes spoilers!

  1. Right off the bat, really uncomfortable sex scene with Marnie and Desi
  2. Why is Marnie like this?
  3. Oh, please just stop. This is so awkward.
  4. Hannah’s hair is scarily similar to my current hair style
  5. Elijah and Hannah are so cute. I love their relationship/bond they have formed over the seasons!
  6. SO EXCITED! Elijah and Shosh are hanging out! I love when characters that don’t usually do scenes together, get together for an episode!
  7. “Where’d you get this number?”—Elijah
  8. Elijah is nude from the waist down! (But forreal, I love his little bubble butt!)
  9. Jessa and Shoshanna doing a video message for their grandma is adorable!
  10. Love Jessa’s hair!
  11. Video message got weird real fast.
  12. Jessa: “You work in the market, right?” Shosh: “I work in marketing”. DEAD.
  13. WHERE IS ADAM?
  14. I really don’t like Desi.
  15. Hannah has such a unique way of running.
  16. JOY BRYANT! Love her!
  17. This season is definitely giving me some OG Season 1 vibes, but in the best possible way! The characters have grown so much!
  18. I can’t with Marnie.
  19. Joy Bryant’s character is a little extra.
  20. Hannah is completely mesmerized by her.
  21. Love the lemon shirt!
  22. I really want to start collecting tea pots because of this episode.
  23. Also I’m kind of starting to wonder if Joy Bryant even works there. Like, did she just steal that and give it to Hannah?
  24. Desi looks like straight-up Where’s Waldo.
  25. He just tried to bite her boob.
  26. Why is Hannah even going with them?
  27. I really love that tea pot set.
  28. Marnie looks like she belongs on Big Little Lies (Side note: GREAT FIRST EPISODE TONIGHT)
  29. Elijah’s outfit is amazing.
  30. Shoshanna’s leaf clutch is so Shosh (side note: props to costume designer)
  31. What is Elijah’s last name?
  32. Shosh’s romper is so cute!
  33. Jamba Jeans? Really?
  34. Is Elijah pretending to be straight?
  35. I want to punch these Jamba Jean girls in the face.
  36. Oooooh Elijah is about to get some!…in the bathroom….
  37. ***Desi’s song***(I WAS SHOOK)
  38. Desi is a drug addict? He’s off his rocker!
  39. Why does Desi just carry around a brief case full of pills?
  40. Desi and Marnie are arguably more self-destructive than Jessa and Adam re: Season 5 finale
  41. He is SNORTING the crushed pills up from the floor.
  42. Like, there is glass. He’s gonna hurt himself.
  43. Where is Hannah?
  44. Marnie=rude AF
  45. They are dragging him out the door.
  46. This is giving me Hush flashbacks (Great movie on Netflix…check it out)
  47. She’s going to crush his hand in the window!
  48. He just broke the window!
  49. Hannah, the spatula, really?
  50. HE BROKE THE TEAPOT.
  51. This is such a sweet Marnie and Hannah episode
  52. WHERE IS ADAM DRIVER?
  53. Shosh’s hair is so pretty right now
  54. Elijah went there!!
  55. Adam does NOT have oral herpes.
  56. Shosh is gonna go after my man like that?
  57. Shoshanna is totally going to tell Ray about Desi and Marnie
  58. Jessa did NOT ruin Shosh’s life! How rude. (side note: Jessa gets such a bad rap, but she doesn’t pull people into her mess of a life; people come willingly. And that is no one’s fault but their own.)
  59. I hate seeing Shoshanna cry.
  60. Why are they so mean to Jessa?
  61. Jessa’s trench coat is everything.
  62. Are they just going to leave Desi there?
  63. Aww, Hannah’s taking care of him
  64. Marnie, don’t leave them. Ok, they’re going together #teamwork
  65. Alison Williams is so beautiful.
  66. WHERE IS ADAM?

***Prepare to have your minds blown. The song that Desi is playing by the window in the kitchen is the same song that Adam plays on the guitar in episode 2 of season 2 when he sends a bunch of hostile songs to Hannah because of their breakup. It is the second song that he plays. I am equally impressed and humiliated that I immediately recognized that song, because I am a hardcore creeper of Girls and have watched every episode a hundred million times, sooooo…

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this post. It really only makes sense to anyone who has already watched the episode, so we’ll see if I do this again in the future.

Hope everyone has a great week!

A Day at Ponce City Market

Good morning, cutie pies!

Yesterday, some friends and I went on an adventure (by adventure, I mean anything other than a quick trip to Target) to Ponce City Market in Atlanta. I wanted to document our day trip in case anyone is ever in the area and wants to know what all the hype is about.

I started my trek as every great adventure should, with a caramel iced coffee and a doughnut from Dunkin Donuts. I happen to dread driving into the city, so these are not just a treat but a necessity.

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If you have not been, Ponce City Market is a super cool place with something for everyone. Previously known as the historic Sears, Roebuck & Co. building, Ponce City Market has re-branded itself into the beautiful, industrial looking, and crowd-pleasing thrum of excitement it is today. It is a community of restaurants and shops of all kinds. A few of my favorite shops there are Anthropologie and Archer, among others that I don’t happen to know the names of. But, if you like candles, books, stationary, and overpriced home décor like I do, there is plenty of places to peruse.

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We went into this great bookstore today that had a little bit of everything. I was in love with the table of literature classics with very cute, redesigned covers. I was very close to buying every single Jane Austen book they had, but I’m trying to watch my spending (speaking of which, don’t forget to check out my post from last week featuring my new Coach bag). But maybe one day when I’m in my own place, I will buy all of the beautiful books my heart desires.

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If you do ever make it over to Ponce, make sure to check out their websites for any kind of events they might have going on. Today, for instance, they were putting on a kissing booth for charities. They had different people for different time slots, and the one we were most excited for was Sara Hopkins (also known as @sayhop). She started on Vine (RIP) and now does the majority of her videos on YouTube, but she is also pretty entertaining on Snapchat and Instagram.

After meeting her, we grabbed lunch downstairs, which is pretty much this hub of every type of food you could imagine. I settled on a delicious sandwich from Farm to Ladle. It was very tasty, apart from the olive tapenade that I apparently missed when scanning the ingredient list. Nothing against olives, but I hate them.

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Very delicious, except for sneaky olive ninjas. 

Then we hit the rest of the stores that we had missed, which included going across the street to Sephora and taking a quick photo op out front.

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This is my friend, Cassandra (also known as Sequins and Sass–check her out!). Forgive the blurriness; I’m still figuring out my camera.

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Finally, we finished our day grabbing a sweet treat. I got my first ever King of Pop popsicle, which they covered in chocolate and sprinkles in honor of Valentine’s day (I think, but again, it was my first time, so it might be something they always do).

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It was a great day—beautiful weather and even better company. I hope you enjoyed this post. I’m working on coming up with a blog schedule, because right now I’m just posting when the mood strikes. That might be something else to add to my resolutions (another shameless promo).

Happy Sunday!