13 Reasons Why: A Review

This isn’t really going to be a review; my title lied. It is part review, part rant…

13 Reasons Why: A Rant

I recently (binge) watched 13 Reasons Why on Netflix this past week. To be honest, I didn’t have high expectations because all of the promos made it look like another stupid teen drama. I was only slightly tempted since I had read the book in high school, but if Cassandra hadn’t started it with me, I probably wouldn’t have watched it for a long time, if ever. After a few episodes, I was hooked. Mostly because of nostalgia– I really loved the book when I was younger.

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This show is probably one of the only instances in my life where the book just didn’t measure up to the show. Now, I have not read the book since high school, so I could be wrong, but the show was just so much more nuanced. There are a lot of changes from the book, but it made the whole thing so much more connected and intense. Plus, the acting was incredible. Watching the show was truly an experience and I can’t wait to watch it again.

I wasn’t originally going to do a review, because the show had been given so much praise already that there wasn’t anything I felt I could add to the conversation. But recently on Facebook, I’ve seen a lot of posts talking negatively about the show because of how graphic and “triggering” it was. So since I am passive-aggressive af, I’ve decided to throw in my 2 cents, plus I really loved the show.

I will be discussing generalized plot points, so if you have not finished and do not want any light spoilers, click away.

In the Facebook post that started this whole blog post, it was basically saying that the entire show needed a warning because the whole show was graphic and insensitive to people who have gone through similar experiences.

First of all, putting a warning on the whole show, telling exactly what is going to go down throughout the entirety of it is (for lack of a better word) stupid. Who would watch a show, knowing exactly what is going to happen? Also, everyone has been talking about this show, everyone knows the premise. So, if you know that you are sensitive to suicide or bullying, then don’t watch a show about suicide and bullying.

Another point that was made in a different Facebook post was that 13 Reasons Why was glorifying and romanticizing suicide. This one was coming from someone who hadn’t even watched the show, and yet they felt entitled to write a whole novel on her Facebook about it. This show, in no way, makes suicide look enticing. If anything, it shows the raw, painful, frightening, and depressing truth of taking your own life.

I don’t think there is anyone out there who read the book or watched the show and then thought, Wow, I could really go for a nice suicide right about now. I was more inclined to buy a tape recorder and tell all the assholes I knew how much of an asshole they were than to take my life. In the final episode when we actually see Hannah commit suicide, it was the darkest thing I’d ever seen in my life. I kept expecting the camera to cut away, but it didn’t. It stayed with her until she died. I stayed with her until she died.

I can’t say that I’ve never thought about killing myself, but it was more like “If I was dead right now, I wouldn’t have to go through this shit” than actual self-hatred and loneliness. But watching that scene was like a sharp slap in the face, waking me up. We always hear about people who kill themselves, but seeing it happen and it’s direct affect around everyone around them is unnerving.

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This show is supposed to make you uncomfortable. You are supposed to feel sick to your stomach. You are supposed to want to look away but fail. Yes, this show is graphic and “triggering” but that is because it needs to be. People aren’t going to talk about it if it isn’t right in their face. That is why the book was so important when it came out 10 years ago. It was all anyone talked about in the hallways at school, and now it is all anyone can post about online. It opens discussion, which in turn instills change.

Thank you for reading!

 

Formal Lookbook

So this past Saturday was my sorority’s spring formal. It was a lot of fun, but I mean, anytime I get to hang out with Amberlyn and Cassandra is a good time. We got all dolled up and took tons of pictures, so here is a bunch of pictures that I took before we left.

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I really love this one because it looks like we are at prom!
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Here is the beautiful Cassandra, who is so photogenic that it should be a crime
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And the lovely Amberlyn! I like to imagine that she is thinking of me 🙂 but she’s probably thinking about her adorable new puppy!

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This is me and my friend, Darby.

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My absolute favorite picture of MAC 
So there you go! I hope you enjoyed these pictures. It was a lot of fun to capture these snapshots of my life, and I hope to continue with photography.

I know I haven’t been posting as frequently, but I’m trying to get back into the groove of things. As always, thanks for reading (or in this case, viewing)!

Happy Lent!

Yesterday was Ash Wednesday, which marks the start of the Lenten season. This would also be why you may have seen some passersby donning black smudges on their foreheads. I view Lent from a Catholic viewpoint, but I know that there are several other religions and denominations that participate in Lent. 

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Lent was always one of my favorite parts about Catholicism. Even though it is one of the darkest parts of the faith, it has always been one of the most beautiful parts to me. 

Lent is all about recognizing the sacrifice that Jesus made for us, so usually during this season, you are encouraged to give up something that is interfering with your relationship with Christ. I am a woman of many vices and some of them I’m just not willing to give up for 40 days (read: Diet Coke). Not that I wouldn’t be able to go without soda for our Lord and Savior; I just don’t see how that is interfering with my faith. 

So, in lieu of giving up something so important to my very being, I end up adding something to my life that will bring me closer to Him. In the past, I added extra prayer or only listened to Christian music or attempted to attend daily mass. 

This year is a little different. My relationship with God is not as strong as it used to be. In fact, I was very surprised to find myself at mass yesterday completely of my own will. But as I mentioned in my Resolutions post, there is just something so enticing about a fresh start. I have acknowledged that there is a block between me and my faith so I have decided to add something to my life that will work on dissolving that wall, while also strengthening my creativity. 

I have recently started reading The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron which is about the beauty of creativity and spirituality. One of the main practices it talks about is Morning Pages, which is a method where you write three pages as soon as you wake up in the morning. It can be absolute gibberish or whatever you dreamed about or really anything that comes to mind.  But the purpose is to keep writing and not stop until you reach three pages. 


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For Lent, I want to do this everyday as a way to flush out my mind and hopefully get to the root of my problem. I used to feel God’s presence so easily in my mind, but as of late it feels like I have pushed Him away completely. Now, I have tried Morning Pages before and it is almost physically impossible for me to remember to do them when I wake up, so I have modified it slightly into Nightly Pages. I feel like the result should be the same, but I guess only time will tell. 

I hope that those of you who do participate have a blessed Lenten season.